my groans are unutterable
the pain is too deep
the cries have no sound
and yet I weep
the soul is bound
with love nowhere found
not one person to connect with
“I am bound”
not one person to understand
that my suffering is my own
conceived by a wicked plan
if you say you love me
why can’t I feel it
why is your touch non-existent
am I alone in this great big world
will there be healing for this little girl
How are you supposed to feel about yourself when accused of trying to kill your little brother at the age of three or four. You know the truth although you are only three years old. You know that your mother is lying to cover her own ass. She knows damn well she left a three-year old and a two-year old in the apartment by themselves. This is my very first memory of childhood.
Again, please let me say that I do not want pity. I truly believe my soul chose the circumstances of my life. All of these traumas were mine to experience to get the lessons I needed to evolve. But, that does not mean I did not feel, or endure the effects of the traumas. I am telling my story because I feel compelled to do so. Maybe it is just for me to finally purge this crap. Or, it might be someone needs to know they can make it and see that it does get better with time and hard work.
Yeah, it sucks that you have to fix your self. I know there are people who have experienced things more horrific but if my soul chose this, then it is safe to say that this is all I could handle. We all walk our own path.
I would hear “yo mama did not want you, if it were not for me aint no telling where your little high yellow ass would be” This may have been true but the delivery of the message was brutal. I grew up feeling like I owed everybody something. I felt I did not deserve love. Come on, if I were worthy my mother would not have left me, right. I could not see that them taking me in and protecting me was Love. My grandmother was correct, if she and my auntie and great-grandmother had not took me in only God knows………….
Fear was my everything. It helped me survive when I was a child but as an adult it stopped me from having healthy relationships. Through therapy I have learned to not take my mother’s neglect (leaving me in apartment alone for at least 2 days) personally. I was caught up in her drama or sickness and it had nothing to do with me except this was what my soul chose. She would have been what she was even if I had never been born. Knowing that has freed me so much that words can not explain. It wasn’t my fault.
I still had to heal from the side effects of her abuse and neglect. Forgiveness does not remove the effects of her boyfriend raping me when I was five years old. I have abandonment issues, trust issues and fear was a part of my DNA. Anger was my armor. It kept people away from me so they could not hurt me. Anger made me (feel) powerful and in control but nothing could be further from the truth. It was controlling me because my anger was always inappropriate to the situation.
I really would not trade anything for my journey. Everything is Everything and it all has a purpose. It took me a while to get here but all that matters is I am here. Love
My brother survived only to die at the age 36 from the effects of alcoholism and drug addiction. I don’t believe he ever healed from the abuse and neglect.