I have been in codependent relationships that relied on me being disabled in sort of way, be it physical or psychological. We were both needy and dependent. It was not healthy because it enabled dysfunction.
You will have what you say. For as far back as I can remember I’ve said “I am going to retire some where hot. So that I can shower, throw on my Sundress and get in my car and just go.” Ha! I don’t even have to comb my hair.